Here is a fun story. A metaphor of the meaning of Since, Setting and Deceasing. Read the story linked below. Consider how the conduct of Tango fits who we all seek to become…
Col. 3 12b-14
…clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
In marriage we are much like Tango in the short story. In Col. 3, Paul instructs us to “clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” We are to put on these clothes—it is not our normal attire. It is not how we usually dress. These weeks we will focus together on dressing the part. We will submit ourselves to a way of being in relationship with the one you have promised to share a lifetime of love. We do these things differently than Tango pretending to be a police officer. In his case he was acting as though he were good in order to do bad—but he rejected his bad because of his new identity with the good. In our case, we are going to practice being good in order to alter bad patterns established over years…patterns formed even before we met our spouses. But because of our new clothes—our new identity—we are to dress differently, be different. We shall blow our whistle loud and long!